Despite having had a truly horrible time lately, today I am feeling grateful. I’m not quite sure who I’m grateful to but I know what I’m grateful for and I’m definitely very lucky. Lentil died and that’s an awful, terrible, massively unfair and unlucky thing … Continue reading Feeling Grateful
When Lentil died the hospital asked whether we wanted to arrange our own funeral or if we wanted them to do it for us. We knew that we wanted to arrange it ourselves. There was so little that we could do for Lentil that we … Continue reading The Funeral
As I have some spare time on my hands at the moment I thought I really ought to get into the kitchen. My husband is definitely the chef in our house but as it was his first day back at work today I thought I’d … Continue reading Not a Soggy Bottom in Sight
I love a bit of upcycling. I love to get a bargain and I love having something that no-one else has. So when it came to decorating Lentil’s nursery it was pretty likely that something was going to get upcycled. We needed a chest … Continue reading Dressed Up Drawers
I can’t believe that it’s six weeks since Lentil died. I can’t believe it’s that long ago but I also can’t believe it happened so recently. I can’t believe it happened at all. Having so little tangible evidence of Lentil makes it hard to convince … Continue reading 6 Weeks On
We have realised just how lucky we are to have such amazing family and friends lately and we have also really appreciated the generosity and kindness of strangers. I’ve been finding it quite hard to leave the house since Lentil’s death and receiving little messages from family, friends and strangers has really helped.
The fundraising has also been completely overwhelming. We initially set out to raise £5000 but we very quickly met this target and decided to increase it to £10000. The unit that we are raising money for is so important. It allows parents who have children who die before, during or soon after birth to have a separate space, away from the normal maternity ward where they can spend time with their child and grieve in peace. Unfortunately at present parents still have to enter and exit this unit through the normal maternity doors, one of the next plans to improve the unit is to build a separate entrance. I can say from personal experience that this will really help, the sound of a crying baby is only just something that I’m beginning to be able to bear. Initially it tore my heart in two. We have now reached a total of £13335.24, £10649.30 has been donated via our Just Giving Page, another £2385.94 has been donated as a result of gift aid and £300 was donated in cash. We are so thrilled with the amount of money raised in memory of Lentil, we are so proud of him and the positive impact he has had. We’d still like to raise so much more as ideally the unit needs £200000 to make all of the improvements needed.
As well as supporting the special unit at Derriford Hospital we also wanted to support the Jubilee Midwives, they are a team who work with ladies in the area who want home births. We decided to use the £300 that we received in cash to buy TENS machines for the Jubilee Team to use with women in labour as that’s what they said would be most useful. We managed to buy 6 TENS machines and a pile of spare electrodes. We were really lucky as the manufacturer gave us a big discount when they heard about why we were buying them.
My brilliant sister decided that she wanted to help with our fundraising so she made this lovely video to help to share our story.